LOVELIGHT
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AUTUMN ISSUE
October 2008 *** Volume 6, No. 10
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Managing Editors: Adamaria Francis and a frannciscan taoist
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Thanks, and public acknowledgment to, the following contributors to this issue: Ramona Abella, Barbara Baty, Ruth Sembiro, and Cherigene Slaughter
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LOVELETTERS FROM
BUDS, PALS, AND FRIENDS
From Ruth Sembiro, of Love Ministries of Uganda:
Dear Friends,
Greeting and love to you from Love Ministries Uganda! I am pleased to inform you that the check for July has been credit on our account. We are so grateful for all that Love Ministries is doing to help the needy in our community. May you be blessed abundantly for this beautiful offer.
We have bought bunches of bananas for food, Groundnuts for sauce, soap and bread for the following homes:
Sarah's family (she has five children) and she is a single mother, she lives a difficult life where she has to look for food and everything to cater for the upbringing of her children. It was so great to receive the provision of food and sauce plus soap and bread to this family.
The others that received are the widows and in their old age they can not do much to support their living; Mulingo Nakato and Babirye's family, also received the same items from the Love ministries.
Annet Kyamagero's family has three children and the husband was imprisoned was also considered, another needy family was identified by one of our members we hope to visit these people on Friday evening.
Then Margaret was also suggested to help her with some money to buy medicine for her treatment.
We are so grateful for all the love and care that is extended to the needy in our community.
Thank you so much,
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LAUGHS, SMILES,
AND CHUCCKLES: HUMORTHERAPY
THE LAME DUCK FINALLY GONE! sent in by Cherigene Slaughter:
In 2009, an old man approached the Marine standing guard at the White House and said, "I'd like to meet with President Bush."
The Marine said, "Sir, Mr. Bush no longer resides here."
The man said okay, and walked away. Later, he said to the same guard, "I'd like to meet with President Bush."
The Marine said, "Sir, Mr. Bush no longer resides here." He thanked him and left.
Later, the man approached the same marine and said, "I'd like to meet with President Bush."
He said, "Sir, this is the third time that you've been here asking to speak to Bush. I've said that Bush no longer resides here. Don't you understand?"
He said, "Oh, I understand. I just love hearing it!"
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THE GREAT SOULS OF LOVE, sent in by Barbara Baty
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Mahatma
GandhiÕs 5 Teachings To Bring About World Peace ŌIf
humanity is to progress, Gandhi is inescapable. He lived, thought, acted and
inspired by the vision of humanity evolving toward a world of peace and
harmony.Ķ EditorÕs note: This post was
written by Shilpan Patel, originally about M. Gandhi. of the Success
Soul blog.
Have
you ever dreamed about a joyful world with peace and prosperity for all humankind--
a world in which we respect and love each other despite the differences in
our culture, religion and way of life? I often
feel helpless when I see the world in turmoil, a result of the differences
between our ideals. This leads
to grief and sorrow being inflicted on millions of innocent victims by a few
who abuse the power of their convictions. ŌHow
can I make a difference so that I can bring peace to this world that I love
and cherish so much? Many
delightful saint mystics inspired the world with their faith in truth and
justice for all humankind. They were great Souls who loved even those who fought against their ideals to
bring about peace with non-violence. How
could meek and fragile persons of small physical stature inspire millions to
bring about a profound change in a way the mightiest had never achieved
before? Their achievements were nothing less than miracles! Their creed was to bring peace to not
only those who suffered injustice and sorrow but to espouse a new way of life
for humankind, with peace and harmony. Their lives were a message. [This was the] message of peace over power, of finding
ways to reconcile our differences, and of living in harmony with respect and
love even for our enemies. Here is the essence of some of their wonderful
teachings: Teaching # 1: Power
is of two kinds: One is obtained
by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand
times more effective and permanent than the one derived from fear of
punishment. The
force of power never wins against the power of love. At this hour, of greatest unrest and
turmoil in our world, the greatest force to be reckoned with lies within our
hearts-- a force of love and tolerance for all. Throughout their lives, these saintsages fought against the
power of force. They transformed
the minds of millions to fight against injustice with peaceful means and
non-violence. Their message was
as transparent to their enemies as it was to their followers. They believed that, if we fight for
the cause of humanity and greater justice, it should include even those who
do not conform to our cause. History
attests to their power as they proved that we can bring about world peace by
seeking and pursuing truth for the benefit of humankind. We can resolve the
greatest of our differences if we dare to have a constructive conversation
with our enemies. Teaching # 2: What difference does it make to the dead,
the orphans, and the homeless, whether the mad destruction is wrought under
the name of totalitarianism or the holy name of liberty and democracy? [In view of our involvement with the
death of a million people in Iraq, we should be asking ourselves this
question as Americans.] A war
always inflicts pain and sorrow on everyone. History has witnessed countless
examples of dictators, including Hitler, Mussolini, Bush, and Stalin to name
but a few, who inflicted sorrow and destruction on our world. A world of peace can be achieved if we
learn the power of non-violence, as shown by the lives of the
sainntmystics. [They] have
proven that we can achieve the noble causes of liberty, justice and democracy
for humankind without killing anyone, without making a child an orphan, and
without making anyone homeless with the damage caused by war. Teaching number 3: There are some causes that I am prepared to die for, but no
cause that I am prepared to kill for. We live
for our values and passion but at the core of our existence lies our innate
desire to live a peaceful life. The
greatest noble cause is to display our desire to bring a bout peace in this
world by our own sacrifice-- and not that of those who oppose our views. The "strength" of cowardice
is in using power to cause death and destruction for others. The strength of courage is in
self-sacrifice for the benefit of all. Many
sacrificed their own lucrative careers to lead a simple life and to share the
pain of the powerless and destitute. They won over the hearts of millions without ever
displaying power over anyone-- simply with the power of altruism. We too can bring peace to our world by
showing our willingness to sacrifice our self-centered desires. Our utmost
cause in life should be to win the hearts of others by showing our
willingness to serve causes greater than ourselves. Teaching # 4: An eye for an eye will only make the whole
world blind History
can attest to the fact that most human conflicts have been as a result of a
stubborn approach by our leaders. Our history would turn out for the better if our leaders
could just learn that most disputes can be resolved by showing a willingness
to understand the issues of our opponents and by using diplomacy and
compassion. No
matter where we live, what religion we practice or what culture we cultivate,
at the heart of everything, we are all humans. We all have the same ambitions and aspirations to raise our
families and to live life to its fullest. Our cultural, religious, and political differences should
not provide the backbone to invoke conflicts that can only bring sorrow and
destruction to our world. Teaching #5: We must become the change that we want to
see in the world. A great
leader always leads with an exemplary life that echoes her ideals. The great saintmystics sacrificed
much, and adopted a simple life to live among the millions who lived in
poverty. Today, we see modern
leaders cajoling the masses with promises that they never intend to keep--
let alone practice what they preach in their own lives. One cannot bring world peace to all
unless a leader demonstrates peaceful acts of kindness daily. The great mysticsages believed that
we are all children of God. We
should not discriminate amongst ourselves based on faith, caste, creed or any
other differences. An
outstanding example of these mystics' leadership was Gandhi's famous Salt
March, which brought about a profound change. On March 2nd 1930, as a protest against tax on
salt, Gandhi wrote a remarkable letter to Lord Irwin, the Viceroy of India.
He wrote, ŌDear Friend, I cannot
intentionally hurt anything that lives, much less fellow human beings, even
though they may do the greatest wrong to me and mine. Whilst, therefore, I
hold the British rule to be a curse, I do not intend harm to a single
Englishman or to any legitimate interest he may have in IndiaÉĶ With these words, he inspired millions
to fight for this righteous cause and eventually forced the British to leave
India without inflicting harm to any Englishman. These were the quintessential qualities of justice and
peace that made changes in our world for the better. [This was accomplished] with their
ideals of faith, love and tolerance. These saintsages taught
us that we can bring harmony to our world by becoming champions of love and
peace for all. The task is
dauntingÉ. Will you make a
pledge to become the change that you would like to see in this world? Let the
first act of every morning be to make the following resolve for the day:
I shall
conquer untruth by truth. And in
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SIMPLIFY, sent
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21 Easy
Hacks to Simplify Your Life ŌSimplicity!
I say, let your affairs be as two or three, and not a hundred or a thousand
instead of a million count half a dozen, and keep your accounts on your
thumb-nail.Ķ – Henry David Thoreau If
youÕre trying to simplify your life, itÕs best to follow the four simple steps
IÕve outlined before; itÕs just
the simplest method. But
sometimes life gets in the way, and you need a workaround, some way to get
past your usual obstacles and to trick yourself into keeping things simple. I use
these ŌhacksĶ myself (in this case, ŌhacksĶ refers to workarounds or tricks
to reach your goal.) And IÕve
found them to be effective in many cases. Also,
donÕt try to implement all of them; that would be far from simple! Not all of them will apply to your
life anyway. Pick one or two and
try them out. Simple
tricks to simplify your life: 1]Three-box decluttering. If youÕre trying to declutter a room, drawer, shelf,
desk É use three boxes quickly to sort everything. Just quickly go through each shelf or drawer or flat
surface at once, putting things into three separate boxes: Trash, Donate, Maybe.
The first two boxes are obvious É the Maybe box is for stuff youÕre not too
sure about; you can put this in storage for a few months and decide later. Put everything else-- the stuff you
love and use-- back neatly. 2] Create a no-distractions zone. This is great for when you want to do
some focused work-- which is just about every day for most of us. Create a zone with no distractions--
no phones, no email, no co-workers, kids, or spouses-- nothing on the walls,
no IM or Twitter, no websurfing. Just the tools that you need to do your work, and nothing
else. You could also create a
time within your schedule for this distraction-free zone-- say 8-10 a.m., for
example. No distractions within
that block of time. No emails or
calls; you can handle those later. 3] Create a short list. This is for big-picture simplifying. If youÕre having a hard time getting
your life to something truly simple, create a short list of things you love
doing most. This should be 4-5
thingsÉ. Then, try to eliminate
everything in your life that's not on the short list, to make room for the
things you love. 4] Deflect all requests for a week. If youÕre feeling overwhelmed, make
the decision that you will not say ŌyesĶ to any new requests this week. If you get a new request, politely
decline. If itÕs a request you
canÕt decline, tell them youÕll get to it next week because you have some
projects you need to finish this week. Then pick one or two or even three projects (depending on
their sizes) and focus on finishing them this week. You can worry about new stuff next
week. 5]
Go schedule-less. This works
well if youÕve been over-packing your schedule. Try this: set a policy that you wonÕt schedule any
appointments. This wonÕt work for some people who have mandatory meetings,
but if you control your schedule, you can tell people, ŌIÕm sorry, I donÕt
make appointments anymore. Call
me on that day; and weÕll see how things are going.Ķ Leave your day wide open. At the beginning of the day, pick a
few things to focus on and try to get them done. If you need to meet with someone, call her, and meet. 6]
Single-task. This is
good for those who tend to be all over the place. IÕve talked about it many times before. DonÕt allow yourself to switch between
tasks. When youÕre working on a
report or writing an article, donÕt do anything else. When youÕre processing email, get to
empty and do nothing else. One
task at a time, finish the task, and move on to the next. Try this for one day, focusing on it
completely for that day. If it
works for you, try it again the next day. 7] Start your day with peace. ItÕs so easy to implement; and yet it can have such a
powerful effect on your day. When
you first rise, do something that is calming and peaceful. That might be running or walking,
having a quiet cup of coffee with a book, watching the sun rise, meditating,
or yoga É whatever works well for you. It can be 10 minutes or an hour, but find some peace in the
morning and use it to calm you throughout your entire day. 8]
Eat only 7 things. If youÕre
trying to be healthful, but are having a hard time navigating complicated
diets, try this hack to simplify things. Limit yourself to non-packaged foods-- fruits, veggies,
whole grains, lean protein, lean calcium, beans, nuts, good fats. Nothing from a box. This will require that you cook your
food, but it doesnÕt have to be complicated. 9]
Go paperless. This works
great for certain types of job. It
wonÕt work for other jobs. But
if you can do it, you can save time filing, save time searching for stuff,
save space, simplify your office, and save a few trees, too. First, insist
that everything be sent via email or through online documents. Then create a
filing system that works for you. those things that can only be sent via
paper, scan and toss. Try to
limit the scanning, and request that things be sent electronically. 10] Go media free. If your life is filled with information overload, and you
find little time to do the things you love to do, consider eliminating media
from your life, at least temporarily. This includes cable TV, DVDs, newspapers and magazines,
Internet news etc. Now, IÕm not
saying that you should eliminate the things you love. You might love a certain tv show-- in
that case, eliminate everything else. You can go media free for a week to see whether it improves
your life, and then consider extending it for longer. This hack wonÕt work for everyone. 11] Limit
yourself to 3 tasks. If your to-do list is long and
overwhelming, pick three tasks that you want to do today-- important tasks
that arenÕt just urgent but actually have a long-lasting impact on your life.
Focus on getting these three
tasks done before anything else. If you finish early, you can either call it a day or get
some bonus tasks done. 12] Limit yourself to one project. How many projects are you juggling
right now? If there are too
many, you might be limiting your effectiveness. Instead, focus on one project right now, and put the others
on the back-burner. Try to get that one project done as quickly as possible,
and then work on the next one. 13] Five-sentence emails. This works well if you spend too much time writing emails. I got the idea from Mike
Davidson, who advocates limiting each email to five sentences or
fewer. This forces you to keep
your emails brief and to the point. It limits the amount of time you use doing email. And it
forces you to decide whatÕs important in each email. 14] Thirty-day rule. This is a fantastic hack for those who have trouble with impulse buying--
that great enemy of simplifying. The rule is that if you want to buy something, you have to
write it on your 30-day list, with the date that it was added to the list. After 30 days, if you still want it,
you can buy it. This doesnÕt apply to necessities such as groceries É which
helps you distinguish between wants and needs, a great skill for simplifying. 15] Wear
only a few colors. You might want to try black, blue,
grey and green, with some browns thrown in now and then. Or, you might prefer brighter or more
imaginative colors. This means
that itÕs very easy for you to match your clothes, and you donÕt need a lot
of clothes. YouÕll have other colors you love to wear; build your wardrobe
around them. This wonÕt work for
people who love having lots of clothes in a wide range of colors. 16] One in, two out. Whenever you bring something into your house, you have to
get rid of two things. The
normal rule is one in, one out, but somehow that never seems to work; things
still accumulate. Instead, get
rid of two things and things will stay simple. 17] Work
four days a week. Of course, not everyone can set her own
schedule, but if you have that luxury, limit yourself to four days a week--
eight hours or less. You might
set it to even six hours if you can manage that. And then make it three days.
But how can you work only four
days if you currently work 5 and are overloaded as it is? ItÕs funny, but you can somehow make
it work. ItÕs a well-known law
that our work expands to fit the time we give it É and the flip side of that
is if you shrink the time, you will shrink the work to fit the time. If you have only four days in a work
week, you will pick the most important tasks. You will get the work done that needs to be done, and
youÕll naturally eliminate the rest. YouÕll set a schedule that works. YouÕll delegate and
outsource and automate and eliminate. And youÕll have an extra day off. Try it and see. 18] Retire
early. This is a radical hack, but it can work for some people. In
fact, itÕs worked for many. Simply
set an early retirement date (maybe even next year!) and force yourself to
save up the money you need. Take
a mini-retirement if necessary. Then,
go back to work and save up for your next mini-retirement. Or set your early retirement in five
or 10 years, and then never go back to work. It sounds unrealistic, but if you look at it that way, you
can save the money you need to retire. It means forcing yourself to make choices-- do you want to
spend impulsively now, or retire early? If you cut back on spending, you can save more. Live simply and frugally and invest
the difference. Make more money
in the short term so you donÕt need to work as much later. 19] Limit storage space. Do you tend to save everything? Have tons of stuff in storage, in closets or attics or
garages, basements, or cupboards? The less storage you have, the less
stuff youÕll save-- which will save you the stress of having to go through
all that storage to find stuff, to organize stuff, to maintain stuff, to get
rid of old stuff. A good example
is the desk.. Can you work on a table with no drawers? This means that you donÕt have all
the usual stuff in a desk, and forces you to keep things simple. You can apply this to all areas of
life if you like. 20] Staunch
your information flow. Similar to the media fast, you can cut
back on the amount of information coming into your life. Do you currently have tons of emails
coming in? Find ways to reduce
them; unsubscribe to mailing lists, ask people to stop sending you jokes or
chainemails; or block them from your inbox; automatically filter things you
donÕt really need to read. Pre-empt
common questions with an FAQ. Do
you read a lot of blog feeds? Unsubscribe
to those that donÕt give you value. Do you read a lot of news? Pick one newsource instead of five. 21] Send
only five emails a day. Pick five important emails to respond
to. The rest can be delayed or deleted. You end up prioritizing, and while some people donÕt get a
response, you also donÕt spend all your time in email. It frees you, and makes you realize
that you donÕt have to respond to every email. People will do just fine; you are not indispensable. ŌReduce
the complexity of life by eliminating the needless wants of life, and the
labors of life reduce themselves.Ķ--
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DREAMS AND FEAR,
sent in by Barbara Baty
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ŌAnd in the end, itÕs not the years in
your life that count. ItÕs the
life in your years.Ķ-- Abraham
Lincoln I love
reading lists of things to do before you die. And
think about this: If youÕre
trying to follow a list of things to do before you die É trying to check things
off the list, just to say youÕve done it É whatÕs the point, really? To be able to tell people youÕve done
it? To follow the life
prescription of some writer? I wonÕt
try to tell you what to do before you die É but I will suggest some questions
to figure out how to live É right now. Each and every day. Because
you never know how much time you have left, and trying to cram a list of
things into that unknown time can be futile. Instead, live every day to the fullest. Get the most out of life. 1. Who do I love, and what am I doing about it? When
someone dies (two of my kidsÕ grandmother just died, so IÕve been thinking
about this a lot), you realize that you never know how much time you have
with the people you love. They
can go at any time-- as can you. And so you must make the most of this time. If you
arenÕt spending time with the people you love, change that. If you are holding a grudge against a
family member, let it go and reconcile. If youÕve done something to hurt a loved one, ask for
forgiveness. Drop the pride, and
make up. If you havenÕt seen someone in awhile, call her now to set up a
date. 2. Am I pursuing my dream, or is fear stopping me? What have
you always wanted to do? Maybe
something you dreamed of as a child but have given up as unrealistic? Maybe something you still want to do,
but are afraid of failing? What
fears are stopping you? And what
would be the worst that could happen if you overcame those fears and pursued
your dream? If
youÕre already pursuing your dream, pat yourself on the back. YouÕre doing awesome! 3. Am I doing something that matters? ThereÕs a difference between doing work, and doing work
that really matters. Much of the
time, we use up the few days we have on this earth with "busy-work,"
stuff that doesnÕt make much difference, and thatÕs sadly a waste of our
lives. Recently
on Dumb Little
Man, a writer suggested that you ask
yourself, ŌWill this matter in five years?Ķ This is a
great question. It helps you
distinguish between trivial busy-work that will take up all of your time but
not matter in a few years, and tasks, projects, and goals with high impact
that will make a difference, in your career, in your life, in the lives of
others. 4. What am I doing to help others? Ironically, you get the most out of life not just by
taking what you can for yourself, but by giving to others. What have you done lately to help
people out? Have you been kind to people? Have you been compassionate? Have you been there for anyone? Listened? Volunteered for those in need? If youÕre not doing anything to help others, this is a good
time to figure out one thing you can do for someone, and put it into action. Ask this question on a regular basis,
and youÕll make kindness a habit. ŌOnly a
life lived for others is a life worthwhile.Ķ-- Albert Einstein 5. Am I as good a person as I want to be? You need to
ask this of yourself all the time. Sometimes, when you're impatient, selfish, or
less-than-helpful, try to reflect back on what youÕve said and done; and
realize that you could have done better. Instead of beating yourself up about it, endeavor to try
harder, to remember to allow your better angels to guide you, to rise above
the trivialities of life to a higher plane. ItÕs
not easy to be a good person, at least not all of the time. ItÕs easier to be
selfish, without thinking about it. But is that how you want to be remembered? Is that how you want to live your
life? Give it some thought, and
act accordingly. 6. What am I doing to live life with passion, health and
energy? You can do all the right things, and yet live a life thatÕs
dull and sluggish. If you let
your health go, you will have little energy and you will waste the minutes
you have left on illness. Instead,
learn to live a healthy life, with good foods and exercise. This will lead to more energy in your
life. And then, direct that
energy into something youÕre passionate about. If you havenÕt found that passion (or passions), start
looking right now. J ŌWe are
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USEFUL WEBSITES, sent in by Cherigene Slaughter
Here are some web sites to help you discern true from false emails. Please put them somewhere you will be able to find them in the future. The political ones are supposed to be nonpartisan.
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SOME GREENINFO, from
GREENTIPS
A Greener Oil Change
Read this
issue of Greentips online
A regular oil change can improve your carÕs fuel economy
and minimize its air pollution and global warming emissions. But what about the environmental impact
of that oil change if it is not done right? According to the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA),
nearly 200 million gallons of used motor oil are improperly disposed of in the
United States each year. The oil
from just one oil change can contaminate one million gallons of water-- a
yearÕs supply for 50 people.
If you are
a do-it-yourself oil changer, the EPA has provided the following guidelines to
ensure the process is as clean as possible:
Used motor
oil (from cars, trucks, boats, motorcycles, or lawn equipment) can be recycled
to make new motor oil-- 2.5 quarts of new lubricating oil can be made from one
gallon of used motor oil-- or processed into fuel oils or other materials.
After you have changed your oil, take it to a local service station or
recycling center that collects used motor oil for recycling (see related links
for a recycling directory). Some
facilities collect used filters as well; if not, ask your waste collection
service whether the filter can be disposed of with your household trash.
You might
be able to further reduce your oil consumption (regardless of whether you do
your own oil changes) by changing your oil less often. A 2008 study conducted by the California
Integrated Waste Management Board shows that many vehicles can go more than the
standard 3,000 miles between oil changes, depending on driving conditions and
motor oil type. Before you skip
your next oil change, however, be sure to follow your car manufacturerÕs
recommendations listed in the ownerÕs manual.
Related
Links
U.S. Environmental Protection
Agency—You Dump It, You Drink It (pdf)
Ohio Office of Compliance Assistance
and Pollution Prevention—Handling Used Oil from Your Home (pdf)
California Integrated
Waste Management Board-- The 3,000 Mile Myth
Earth 911-- Automotive
Parts Disposal and Facility Locator.
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